TMC Presidents Message:

A Summer Greeting 


We want to send greetings to everyone in our TMC family and wish you well. The summer time has arrived, school is out, summer plans are in place and many of us can look forward to special, hopefully relaxed, times for recreation and recharging our batteries. I hope that you are among them.

The Men’s Council can celebrate a year since we began our efforts to reinvigorate the work the Triangle Mens Center began. We are happy to report that we can list some clear accomplishments. Many of those accomplishments concern the work needed to make the organization operational again and included such things as establishing a Board, selecting a new name and revising the Bylaws of the organization. We also held the first TMC elections since the reorganization began. You can go to the TMC web pages to see our current Board members and its officers.

One of the major accomplishments of the past year has been to completely revise the TMC web and social media presence. Jim Neill and Larry Sorkin have spent untold thankless hours designing and updating those pages ( There is a wealth of information there and we all need to take the time to visit them regularly and to express our gratitude to them for the contributions that they have made.

Along with our thanks to these two, I would like to mention the quiet, steady work of another person. Over the years John Sullivan has been the Treasurer and financial officer year after year since at least 2008 when I began attending the Gatherings again after a decade hiatus. Since there have not been any elections or new TMC Boards formed for quite a long while, he has faithfully carried on without respite. Because of his stewardship the TMC has maintained a positive balance bank account of sufficient size to ensure that the one most important event, the Spring Gathering of Men, would be able to occur from year to year. In addition, he has made sure that the financial business of the TMC has been reliably carried out over the course of each year. Because he does his work quietly and without fanfare, most of us are not even aware of his contributions. Believe me when I say that we owe John a major debt of gratitude.

Finally, in terms of accomplishments I think that almost all who attended this year’s Gathering in April would agree that this was one of the most successful we have experienced in recent memory. The feedback was uniformly positive and we have many people to thank for that.  It was an amazing cooperative group effort involving so many people that I cannot list everyone. Thanks are in order to all in the planning who spent hours of time meeting, first at Larry’s place in Taylorsville in October, and then via phone conference calls over the course of the six months leading up to the Gathering. Special thanks go to the Saturday night planning committee that spent extra time meeting to plan the Saturday night ritual, to those who sat in front and facilitated the large group sessions, to the small group facilitators and to those who led workshops. The consistent high quality in each of these areas over the course of the weekend combined to give participants an experience that will be remembered for a long time.

We can also celebrate the fact that we had the highest number of attendees, 84, in recent memory. More important around 25% of these attendees were new to the Gathering. We can only hope that this trend will continue in the future.

We will be starting the planning process for next year’s Gathering in October. The weekend is not yet settled, but if you are interested in participating, you can contact Larry Sorkin to be sure he includes you on his distribution list. Mark the dates for next year’s Gathering on your calendar: April 17-19, 2015. We hope that you will be able to join us for that event.

As we look ahead to the coming months we hope you will all keep an eye out for the events that will be occurring. Here are a few of the TMC related events to watch for:

    Monthly TMC events coordinated by Dave Davenport and John Hall

    August 9, the Catawba Men’s Gathering in Charlotte

    September 27, the Fall Feast at Soltera in Durham

    November 20, author Robert Mitchell on the Warrior Archetype and Trauma of Mechanized Warfare in Chapel Hill at Church of Reconciliation

Visit the TMC web pages to learn details about these events and other events of interest to men that we try to keep up with around the state and the country. We invite you to inform us of any gatherings, meetings or workshops that you learn about that you think would be of interest to men and which we have not had occasion to post on the TMC web pages. We need your help to provide as complete a list of resources for men as possible.

We hope that you have an enjoyable summer and look forward to serving your needs in whatever way possible in the future.

God speed and peace be with you,

Bron Skinner

President, The Men’s Council